Bonding typically refers to the process of
attachment that develops between romantic partners,
close friends, or parents and children. This bond is characterized by emotions
such as affection and
trust….source Wikipedia. The bonds we have with
our family, our closest friends and our peers are not only deep in emotion but often function.
The bond we have with our peers or business partners has more depth with function than emotion. We compliment one another, we create efficiency in our day and we add value to each other’s lives. Emotion often takes a back seat to the bond
of practical function.
Our friendships are more likely a combination of both emotion and function. We spend time with our favorite running buddy, gym companion, hunting partner or other friends that all serve different roles in our life. With each relationship,
we enjoy various activities and bond in that way, sometimes crossing over into emotion as we share.
It’s natural to think the bonding we have with our family is purely emotional, due to the close nature of our relationships. We certainly tend to lean on our family to be there for us in time of emotional need. What I also believe to be
true, is the functional aspect of our bonding that simply reinforces the emotional piece.
Think about specific activities you love doing with your parents, your siblings or immediate family. These functional bonding times are likely long-standing activities that you have done together forever and do very well as a team. It’s
this bonding time when you continue to create depth with that person on a functional level, only to appreciate conversations and moments that come on an emotional level. I see great value in function.